“HOW TO” Look for the positive perspectives in your life (Life lesson #21)

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lookOne of my core beliefs is that the quality of your life and happiness is based on the perspectives that you choose to create on all that has happened and is happening in your life. It’s the perception of your world that creates your world. This is something I have practiced for as long as I can remember. Practicing this way of thinking has gotten me to move through the hard times in my life and has helped to clean up any negative vibes and situations from the past. And I’m writing about this to you because I know from the bottom of my soul that being able to do this for yourself can transform your life and help to release the resistance that you hold in your body.

I even added it to what my kids say at the end of their prayers at night. They add “Always look for the good in every situation:)” And although this next example is a simple one, I was thrilled when my 8 year old daughter put that belief into practice. I was pulling a bowl of gravy out of the refrigerator and spilled it  all over the floor. My daughter who was in the kitchen comes up to me, looks me in the eyes and says “Mommy, it’s not the end of the world, worse things could happen, We’ll just clean it up. And look at it this way…it’s making the kitchen smell good!” All I could do is look at her, take a deep breath and say “you know what? You’re totally right!” and smile. (Not because she offered to help clean it up which would make me smile in itself;) But  I was like OMG! She’s getting it!!!! If she can apply this huge life skill every time something doesn’t go the way she planned in life, she’ll always be okay :)

Look, I’m not saying to not feel the pain if you’re going through a hard time in life- because I do believe sometimes you just have to feel it and move through it. But when you do get to a point where you can take a deep breath and and ask for the greater good to flow through you, I encourage to ask yourself-” what is the good that has to come out of this situation? “And if you ask God to help you find it, if you listen carefully to that voice inside you when you quiet your mind, you’ll find it!

Here’s some examples to maybe help get you started…I’ve personally known people with major illnesses who said it has been a gift because it helped bring public awareness for finding a cure. I’ve seen inspirational  speakers on stage with no arms or legs saying it’s been a gift because they have been able to inspire so many with their story. What about the horrible death of a loved one? For me, it catapulted me into exploring my spirituality. I also tell myself when a challenging situation presents itself (after maybe I calmed down after being pissed off) that this situation is here to teach me something. So I ask, what am I supposed to learn? In a divorce- to not let what others think change who I am. To be more empathetic to others going through life transitions. To not to be judgmental. And most importantly to not hand over the power of controlling my happiness to someone else. In sickness- to not take health for granted. To learn to love my body and feed it with healthy food so the cells can do their jobs. Teenagers- well……they are ALWAYS giving us the opportunity to practice patience, right?? ;)

The people you meet, the situations you have that bother you- why are they here? What’s the good in it? I encourage you to look at all the situations and people form your past that has caused you pain and has been hard to let go of. How do you start letting go? By asking ….“What is or was the good in this situation?”

Change your perception- change your life. And who’s in control of your perception? You are. Enough said. xo

In my next letter to you….you’re the bravest of the brave.

We are all in this together!

With crazy love and gratitude! 

-Donna xoxo

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HOW to Refocus Your Thoughts…3 Cool Tips You Can Use!!!

thinkingI know! You hear it allllll the time….”Change your thoughts to something positive!” Well..that will make a difference, and will cause a shift in your energy to attract better circumstances, but here’s the question: HOW do you do that?!?!? It’s really freaking HARD sometimes! We get into this “comfort zone” because we’ve been thinking about those negative thoughts for so long and they are just there for us to access because we got so good at thinking them! We replay them over and over again… so HOW do we change the record? Yes, going inside and meditating, trying to clear your mind…doing that helps a LOT..I’ve done it, still do it and it really does help to calm your mind…but I realize that there are a lot of hours in the day, so we need some other ways to redirect our thoughts in addition to meditation. There are lots of things we cannot control about our environment  but there are some things that we can control. And here are some of the ideas I’d like to personally share with you that have worked for me, and still do:

1.Quote boards- We’ve heard of vision boards (posting what we want to bring into our life visually through pictures)…but I started a “quote board” to help me refocus my thoughts. I pulled them from Facebook, from books, from TV, from googling topics, anywhere! I printed them out and put them on this large board. And it really helped! They were the words I know I needed to hear…the thoughts I needed to get into my head and I read them every time my mind went south for an empowering kick in the butt!

2. Music and lyrics- I created files on my ipod with titles such as ”My New Life!” and “OUTSTANDING!” for example (ok may sound corny but I’m just keepin’ it real lol) and then in each file I added songs with lyrics that I know were what I needed to hear…to remind me of where I want my thoughts to go. Music is an AWESOME state changer!

3. Books- I would go down to the book store, look at titles of books that I felt would help to redirect my thoughts, get a cup of green tea or if I wanted to treat myself- a decaf cappuccino (with lots of cinnamon!), take the stack of books I found, sit and just read through them like a sponge. Then I  bought the one that had ideas and words that I connected to the most and helped me to refocus my thoughts. I put it on my night table and referred to it whenever my mind would drift to the negative so that I would get back on track!

These are just some of the main tips I  wanted to share with you to answer the question “Yeah but HOW do you change your thoughts?” …and I still do ALL of them till this day!


“Change your thoughts and you change your world!” ~Norman Vincent Peale

So what do you think you can do to help re-focus your thoughts to a place that serves you?? Let me know in a post below!! :)

You can get your thoughts going in the right direction!You can do this! You are stronger than you know! :)

With crazy love and gratitude,

Donna xoxo